tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post7928525080277750887..comments2023-07-13T08:53:18.338-05:00Comments on I Promise Not to Laugh During the Seance: Phone homeLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10242720787149022301noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-88824651700088143712007-10-12T14:50:00.000-05:002007-10-12T14:50:00.000-05:00I used to administer COBRA, and that woman is full...I used to administer COBRA, and that woman is full of shit. You have 3 months from the end of coverage to sign up, and she can not decline on your behalf. Fight the power, you will win.<BR/><BR/>And I would talk to whomever said you would keep your coverage, and see if they meant it, and if they can arrange to do that for you, because as we all know, COBRA is expensive. And it doesn't go on forever...it runs out in a year or two.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653383372182667361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-62659367568102212662007-10-11T10:38:00.000-05:002007-10-11T10:38:00.000-05:00Both life insurance and a will are of great import...Both life insurance and a will are of great importance, especially when children area involved.<BR/><BR/>Good luck to your daughter! I'm sure she will be great!Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11604097511444010759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-45833519253326779782007-10-11T05:52:00.000-05:002007-10-11T05:52:00.000-05:00Oh Sweetie - do not let that woman (I would use ot...Oh Sweetie - do not let that woman (I would use other terms - but I am trying to stay composed) deter you. You are entitled to coverage and have done all of the requirements. Go over her head - talk to the owner - whatever it takes.<BR/><BR/>We are receiving our recorder this week as well - perhaps we can record them playing and commiserate? Or buy earplugs?<BR/><BR/>That email made every hair stand on end. So strange now to look back on that and other things and see how we would do things differently - if given the chance.<BR/><BR/>You are such a strong, loving woman - I am inspired daily by coming here...to be better, to do better and to live better.<BR/><BR/>Much love!Sharpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16069441965855692593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-24687156922736122112007-10-10T15:45:00.000-05:002007-10-10T15:45:00.000-05:00Oh, my heart just dropped when you wrote about you...Oh, my heart just dropped when you wrote about your reaction to the phone call. <BR/><BR/>I wouldn't blame you for totally losing your shit with that woman from your husband's company. Maybe you could ask to speak with her supervisor, and actually deal with getting the health insurance reinstate with this person. Whatever you do, don't back down.artemisiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12048259618106957687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-374429351208108702007-10-10T12:36:00.000-05:002007-10-10T12:36:00.000-05:00Laura you never cease to amaze me. Thank you for ...Laura you never cease to amaze me. Thank you for the PSA. And the insurance lady, is not where the buck stops. I would go above her head.Miguelitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134489935342720776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-27324542784120200462007-10-10T10:53:00.000-05:002007-10-10T10:53:00.000-05:0026 years ago today my mother died. That tells you...26 years ago today my mother died. That tells you how a child remembers and today, in that memory, I am but a child missing my mommy. I couldn't give my father solace and that tore me apart. For the first few years after her death, I brought him more pain than comfort. I was not around enough for him, didn't come by when he needed or as often as he liked and the kicker, I reminded him so much of her he wanted me around, he needed me, but it hurt to see me at the same time. The roller coaster rides of our lives and relationships.<BR/><BR/>At the age of 72, 9 years after my mother's death, my father died. My sister and I shared the responsibilities of handling his estate for our 8 other siblings. After Mom died, Dad never changed their room, her clothes were still in the closet they shared, in her side of the dresser. He never canceled her insurance on the cars even though the cars were no longer functioning, he never canceled her credit cards or removed her name from any policy or legal document or account they owned. There were small insurance policies on her that he never sought to have honored, there was such much he didn't do because he couldn't, he couldn't bring himself to do it. <BR/><BR/>She was the love of his life and he didn't let her go and there was nothing any of us could do to make him go through their room and make it his room. Sure, it meant more hassles for us, more paperwork after he died, but in the end that doesn't really isn't that important. He did what he had to do to continue to live without her. She took care of him when she was alive, she made his coffee and breakfast for him every morning, she did his laundry and folded his shirts just so. She was the matriarch of the family, she was his heart and his backbone and his laughter. After she died he learned to do for himself, he took care of himself, but he never got over the hurt - he never stopped missing her or loving her.<BR/><BR/>The death of a spouse has been compared to the amputation of a limb. You learn to deal without the limb but the phantom pains remain, there are times you forget that it is gone. When someone we love dies, we don't replace them, we don't forget them, we just learn to live without them.<BR/><BR/>Laura, do what you need to do and do it as you can do it, at your own pace, in your own time. You will never stop loving him, you will never stop hurting but you will learn to live with the pain and the loss, just as you live with the RA. He didn't define you, he gloried in loving you and he helped you know that you are worthy of love. You had what many of us will never have and he found you worthy enough to give that to you, the never ending love of a man like Leonard. Don't fore sake the gifts he gave you, don't doubt your worth and yourself just because he is not around to remind you. You know in your heart that if he loved you and that made you special indeed. <BR/><BR/>Take the time to breath and take the time you need, but live for you, for the kids and for him. He thought you worthy enough to fight for your life and you know he was never wrong.<BR/><BR/>(((hugs)))<BR/><BR/>much love <BR/><BR/>mAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16884323024625094898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-89447198728916395592007-10-10T09:52:00.000-05:002007-10-10T09:52:00.000-05:00I am just continuing to pray for you Laura, that t...I am just continuing to pray for you Laura, that the Lords peace goes before you each time you face these hurtful things while going forward in this maze of ultimate saddness. You are doing it girl, one day at a time and one step at a time, you are pushing through it. I admire the strength and courage it takes for you<BR/>to hold back, instead of just hauling off and slapping somebody:) Today is a new day and my prayer is that you find the little nuggets of hope that keep you going. Your love of your kids shines through.<BR/>Love and Hugs, Laurie in Ca.Laurie in Ca.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15599832324966859946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-89294611744007478032007-10-10T09:16:00.000-05:002007-10-10T09:16:00.000-05:00I'm sorry you had to deal with that annoyance. Pe...I'm sorry you had to deal with that annoyance. People really forget that people are behind their jobs. That woman should have been willing to bend over backwards to help you correct the problem.<BR/><BR/>In re the Ms. thing. I know you hate to see it, but don't be too hard on her for that. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>JessJess Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07034701149199420149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-73337800634974879382007-10-10T08:33:00.000-05:002007-10-10T08:33:00.000-05:00I agree, life insurance is a very valuable investm...I agree, life insurance is a very valuable investment. I have a pretty good policy that I hope would take care of my family if something should happen to me. The benefits lady at Leonard's work is awful. You should definitely talk to her supervisor.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-4295333304212127882007-10-09T23:24:00.000-05:002007-10-09T23:24:00.000-05:00That totally sucks. You should write a letter to h...That totally sucks. You should write a letter to her boss.Marshamlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00604324969370405697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-88418262798869210942007-10-09T21:54:00.000-05:002007-10-09T21:54:00.000-05:00by Edna St. Vincent Millay TIME does not bring rel...by Edna St. Vincent Millay<BR/> <BR/>TIME does not bring relief; you all have lied<BR/>Who told me time would ease me of my pain!<BR/>I miss him in the weeping of the rain;<BR/>I want him at the shrinking of the tide;<BR/>The old snows melt from every mountain-side,<BR/>And last year's leaves are smoke in every lane;<BR/>But last year's bitter loving must remain<BR/>Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide!<BR/><BR/>There are a hundred places where I fear<BR/>To go,—so with his memory they brim!<BR/>And entering with relief some quiet place<BR/>Where never fell his foot or shone his face<BR/>I say, "There is no memory of him here!"<BR/>And so stand stricken, so remembering him!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1845564822661253716.post-9138204047295757122007-10-09T21:39:00.000-05:002007-10-09T21:39:00.000-05:00I appreciate your PSA. We have life insurance pol...I appreciate your PSA. We have life insurance policies on both girls (I guess it would be HAD in Han's case) and of course we NEVER thought we would need them. What is that about never say never??<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you are having to deal with such unkind people, especially benefits lady. B got an email from one of his benefits ladies with the subject "Your daughter's death certificate". Can you imagine how *that* made him feel?? Some people have NO sensitivity.<BR/><BR/>You are amazing. You really are. we were talking last night at CF about losing a child versus losing a spouse. It was such an interesting discussion and the conclusion was, that either way it SUCKS! when you lose a child, you have your spouse there to support you, but who do you have when your life partner dies? I'm not saying I know how you're feeling, because, of course I don't. Just know I sympathize more than I could ever tell you.<BR/><BR/>HUGS!!!!!!Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317328366288947798noreply@blogger.com