Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Two down

and I hope that's it. Nicole does not need to be getting sick on top of recovery. Heaving with an incision is not an option.

She was not ready to go back to school today, but I am hoping that, with a good night's rest, in a freshly made bed, she will feel up to it in the morning. Her teachers miss her, as do her friends. I am going to be really sad to see her go. I have always loved having the kids home (I know I've mentioned that before) and the quietness of a house without them in it (even when they argue and drive me *this close* to insanity) makes me very sad. The house is foreign without my family. The adjustment of just us three has been horrible at times and I sometimes reflect, and then can not believe some of the things that are "normal" these days.

Within seconds of James stopping the vomitting part of his flu bug (I am not making this up) my tummy started rumbling, and aching. I haven't had the flu since the Christmas that James was an infant. Why is it the flu likes Christmas so much anyway? I spent the night in Krandall (see previous chair posts that I am too lazy to link to at the moment). I am better now, except for general body aches which could be related to that bug or the flareup that started last week. Or it could be just the missing.

We know that James is well due to the temper. My son has a horrific temper. One that burns bright and hot and scorches the souls of those around him. I am not kidding. It is really incredible how upset he can get. This is not an offshoot or acting out due to his loss. He has been this way since infancy and it runs in his family. A positive aspect is that he usually feels awful within minutes and apologizes. The negative aspect is I don't want him to deal with a lifetime of regrets. So, we deal. And talk. And try. And he has gotten better...at least a fraction better. He is the boy with the curl, right in the middle of his forehead. And when he is good, the whole world shines in the light of his smile, his mama and family bask in the glow of his love and hugs. And when he is bad, well, we won't talk about that.

Guess what?? Nicole made it back to school today! and so did James. And my head isn't hurting nearly as bad as it was yesterday, and my tummy finally gave it up, and the only bad thing is the empty house.

12 comments:

Karen MEG said...

Oh yuck, Laura, so sorry to hear that you and the boy are experiencing this bug now.
Your boy sounds like a very passionate fellow. It's actually better to be open with his emotions rather than bottling them up. So in a way, it's a good thing. Most guys (like my son) need a lot of prodding before you get to what's really bothering them.

Woli said...

I have been worried about you. It has been so quiet, it seemed likely that you too had the flu! Take care of yourself.

The girl left behind said...

Christmas brings everyone, and their bugs, together. Nasty crud and coughing has been echoing in the hallways at work since the holidays, and now I've a sore throat, too. Keeping my fingers crossed. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Shari said...

I always thought about that, too, that winter begets the flu. Something about being cooped up? Maybe we need to wash our jacket zippers more? Our hands touch more things between washings? Can you imagine how dirty a shopping cart is? You push it around when how many shoppers touched it before you, with perhaps a toddler in the seat?

Hope you get better soon, Laura. I hope that Nicole heals with the incision. I am glad that James is over his flu.

I get that way, too. I miss my family when they aren't here, but when they are fighting....sigh. Can't win.

Marsha said...

My little on has a temper that burns as hot as a thousand suns too. She too is the sweetest person in the world, except...

The Stevens Family said...

You described Callee when you described James. It has been this way since day one. I get so irritated with it and just walk away sometimes until the eruption is over. She is too little to talk it out right now, but I'll have to remember that when she does get a little older.

Sorry to hear about your flu, but glad to see you're back.

Karen said...

I hope you all are feeling better! That darn stomach bug is going around everywhere!
I had to comment on your "curl in the middle of the forehead". My mom used to use that little poem in reference to me all the time! I know, can you believe? Hee hee! But I've never heard anyone else quote that before. What a small world.

Jeanette said...

My daughter had a bad temper when she was young too and combined with my bad temper we were quite a pair. Anyway, I've mellowed alot and she's matured so we get along now. Hope everyone is well soon.

Shannon said...

I had a temper growing up but now I am like butter. Having kids tempered me, except when it comes to my kids.

I hope you are better and that Nicole stays healthy and has a great return to school.

Donna said...

Hoping all of you are on the mend!!
It's Not fun.....hughug

Scott said...

Yuck for you two, glad to hear it's gone.

I spent a Christmas a few years ago alternating between laying on the bathroom floor and puking. And it wasn't even self enduced, although it did remind of those days.

Betts4 said...

Hoping you are feeling better. It has been sort of quiet here too. It seems to be harder now. I am thinking of you and the kids!!